Caring for Women is Important to the LORD Whom We First and Foremost Serve

“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7

David Taylor writes:

“The Apostle Peter also warns the husband about loving his believing wife and how that may hinder his prayer requests if he doesn’t. It took awhile for this worldly beast man to learn and is still learning how to love my wife as Christ loved and loves His church and gave HIMSELF for her.”

“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;” Ephesians 5:25

Modesty is Beautiful

“That women adorn themselves in modest apparel.” 1 Timothy 2:9

When the highlight of your “womanhood” is to show your rear end, or cleavage, doesn’t that speak of a great deficit of true virtuous feminine substance such as what we read about in Proverbs 31 and 1 Timothy 2?

Only what the Bible calls a “whoremonger” (man) finds scantily dressed women attractive (Ephesians 5:5; Hebrews 13:4; Revelation 21:8; 22:15). The whoremonger is looking for a quick fix and not a wife and so he’s drawn to what he wants most to satisfy his lusts – the body, instead of a good wife for life.

Just sent a private message to a young woman claiming Christ as Savior and yet who is showing much, too much of her body in a provocative way:

“Modesty sister…. you are not a whore. you are not just another wicked woman of this hell bound fallen world…. you are a new creature in Christ. Read, own, pour and over 2 Corinthians 5:17-18; 1 Timothy 2:9-15… A good man will have nothing to do with a whorish woman who is flashing and showing her body to the world. There’s nothing more attractive and sexy than a woman who is modest, classy, exuding purity reserved for her husband.”

The godly man views modesty as a must and a turn on. A scantily dressed, an immodest woman is a major red flag “NO” for sane men.

A wise older sister in Christ once told me as a young man that “the more flesh a woman is showing to the world, the more fleshly, ungodly she is” (Titus 2:1-5; 1 Timothy 2:9-14).

The godly woman will manifest modesty not her body!!

God instructs women to be modest in their apparel but He did not ordain that sinful men take advantage of His instructions to women or that foolish, self-righteous religious hypocrites make a religion out of it by controlling and abusing women with their self-imposed rules and regulations!!!! You know, like the cults that force women to wear dresses down to their shoes, can’t cut their hair, going to hell if they wear jeans or a piece of jewelry or makeup, etc. None of those are sins mentioned in the lists of soul-damning sins we see in Scripture (Galatians 5:19-21, etc.). And quite frankly, it seems that perhaps the lusts of these controlling men is the real issue.

Exposing the False Burdens of False Prophets

May God bless us gentlemen to nurture, protect, and provide for the ladies the LORD put in our lives and to lift and not lay burdens on our sisters in Christ.

When our manhood consists of malevolent treatment of women, isn’t that the opposite of Christ’s command and example, when He gave His life for the church, His Bride? (Ephesians 5:25-27)

This abuse seems to fall under the governing principle of the following prophetic warning Jesus gives concerning men who once served Him and yet now abuse His people. Notice that Jesus says these abusers are the ones going to hell:

“But and if that servant say in his heart, My lord delayeth his coming; and shall begin to BEAT (abuse) the menservants and maidens (ladies), and to eat and drink, and to be drunken; 46 The lord of that servant will come in a day when he looketh not for him, and at an hour when he is not aware, and will cut him in sunder, and will appoint him his portion with the unbelievers. 47 And that servant, which knew his lord’s will, and prepared not himself, neither did according to his will, shall be beaten with many stripes. 48 But he that knew not, and did commit things worthy of stripes, shall be beaten with few stripes. For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required: and to whom men have committed much, of him they will ask the more.” Luke 12:45-48

The godly man will protect his beloved wife from such bondage laden false teaching. He will remove her from such men who load undue burdens on the shoulders of God’s people (Matthew 23:3-4). One mark of a false leader is that he puts undue, un-biblically true burdens on those he speaks to. More on this important discernment point in a moment.

As you will witness in the Bible passages below, the LORD’s main principle seems to point to the heart of His ladies and how it’s to be what’s most important, not outward adornment. And as the godly woman’s heart is right with Him, she will obey Him in the way she dresses so as to not tempt men (Luke 17:1-2).

“Then said he unto the disciples, It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come! 2 It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones.” Luke 17:1-2

Notice that the LORD doesn’t say that His ladies will be damned if they style their hair or wear jewelry!

“Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel (jewelry, clothes); 4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:” 1 Peter 3:3-5

“In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 10 But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.” 1 Timothy 2:9-10

Debbie Lord writes:

“Godly women’s first allegiance/obedience is to the Lord, and not to man.

‘For the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.’ 1 Samuel 16:7.

Godly women choose to please the Lord first and foremost.

Holiness always begins inside the heart, not some outward action, like how one chooses to dress.

If a woman’s heart is right before the Lord, then that heart condition will also show on the outside, in how she acts, speaks and clothes/adorns herself.”

As is the case in the world around us today, so it was in the days the Holy Spirit moved upon the “holy men of God” who penned Holy Scripture (2 Peter 1:19-21). There was much emphasis and fanfare placed on the outer among the lost souls in this fleeting world we are temporarily in. Of this Adam Clarke notes:

“The extravagance to which the Grecian and Asiatic women went in their ornaments might well be a reason for the apostle’s command.” Adam Clarke

Growing up, my father often said:

“The reason why people decorate their bodies (tattoos, rings, etc.) is due to a lack of substance inside, in their hearts. Their undue, overdone adorning of the outer body points to a vacuum in the heart.”

Of this phenomenon, Adam Clarke writes:

“When either women or men spend much time, cost, and attention on decorating their persons, it affords a painful proof that within there is little excellence, and that they are endeavoring to supply the want of mind and moral good by the feeble and silly aids of dress and ornament.” Adam Clarke

Today, we have many Christian ladies who seem to spend far to much money, time, and emphasis on the outward, instead of the inward, the hidden man of the heart which the LORD looks upon to weigh each of us in the balance, desiring to see us set our heart affections upon Him and like beloved David to have a heart after Him (Colossians 3:1-4; Acts 13:22, etc.).

“One thing have I desired of the LORD, that will I seek after; that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to behold the beauty of the LORD, and to enquire in his temple. 5 For in the time of trouble he shall hide me in his pavilion: in the secret of his tabernacle shall he hide me; he shall set me up upon a rock. 6 And now shall mine head be lifted up above mine enemies round about me: therefore will I offer in his tabernacle sacrifices of joy; I will sing, yea, I will sing praises unto the LORD. 7 Hear, O LORD, when I cry with my voice: have mercy also upon me, and answer me. 8 When thou saidst, Seek ye my face; my heart said unto thee, Thy face, LORD, will I seek.” Psalms 27:4-8

The elder women are to teach the younger women these things Scripture speaks of in great detail.

“The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” Titus 2:3-5

We must also beware of false leaders, who lay heavy burdens upon people:

“All therefore whatsoever they bid you observe, that observe and do; but do not ye after their works: for they say, and do not. 4 For they bind heavy burdens and grievous to be borne, and lay them on men’s shoulders; but they themselves will not move them with one of their fingers.” Matthew 23:3-4

Satan is behind all this undue binding, putting bondages on people. Jesus makes the people free who truly follow Him on His stated terms.

“As he spake these words, many believed on him. 31 Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed; 32 And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. … 36 If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.” John 8:30-32, 36

“The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” John 10:10

While false teachers place heavy burdens upon their prey, Jesus says that those who will come to Him in true repentance, laying down their lives to follow Him, will walk in His liberty – will be made free!

“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30

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