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UNMARRIED MEN, WHO DESIRE TO BE MARRIED, HAVE THE DIVINE ASSIGNMENT OF FINDING A WIFE

(by Push TO UMinistry on Facebook – Edited by Stephen Michels)

“Whoso findeth a Contact Email findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” Proverbs 18:22

We should not attempt to deny the God-given attraction between male and female. No, instead we must live that daily cross so that such affections are in check – crucified – and no “inordinate affection” (lust, concupiscence) is manifesting (Colossians 3:1-5). In fact, in this very passage we see that when the affections of our hearts are set upon the LORD Himself, His power within us will be resident to crucify the deeds of the body, including lust. Read Colossians 3; Galatians 5:16-26; 1 Corinthians 7:1-5.” Todd Tomasella

God called you to be a spiritual leader, to be a protector, to be an example of Christ’s love for the church.

(1) Maximize your time with God. Read and study the Word of God. Serve the LORD daily. Die to yourself and minister to others.

(2) Do not date/court people with whom you are unequally yoked- (A) NON-BELIEVERS, (B) BELIEVERS WHO HAVE DIFFERENT THEOLOGICAL BELIEFS THAN YOURS. Never date a woman who is stuck in her religious traditions and is not teachable. Only court one woman at a time. Do not ignore women whom God puts in front of you- women you meet while fellowshipping and doing Christ’s work, etc.

(3) Examine the woman’s character – “Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30) Does she love the LORD, or does she just love her pastor and her church? There’s a huge difference here. If she is loving the LORD with all her being, she is helping others and not living to please herself. Is she wise? Is she unselfish? Is she kind? Would you feel proud to introduce her to others? Do you feel honored to be with her? Are you becoming a better man by knowing her? Are you growing in your relationship with God, because of her example?

(4) Do not allow yourself to be rushed into turning the relationship into romance. Build a strong friendship with her first. Guard your heart, and then wait to hear from the LORD. ALLOW THE HOLY SPIRIT TO GUIDE YOU REGARDING WHETHER OF NOT you should proceed further.

(4) Never place a woman in a position of dishonor. Respect a woman’s body as a temple for the holy spirit. Recognize that when you are with her, whether in person, on the phone, on the internet, or via text–Jesus is there with the two of you, and you should not do or say anything that would be inappropriate in His eyes. – The Bible says that godly men are to treat “The elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, with all purity.” (1 Timothy 5:2)

(5) Do not allow others to speak negatively about her in front of you.

(6) Be certain that she is not making an idol of you. God will not allow such – before or after marriage. He is a Jealous God (Exodus 20:3-4; 34:14).  If a woman is not sincerely seeking the face of the LORD, she may be prone to idolize you. Encourage her to focus more on her relationship with the LORD.

(7) Beware of the many women today who, though claiming to be saved, are full of self – self-absorbed, self-seeking, and not given to serving God and others. A truly God-fearing woman is very rare. – ” Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.” Proverbs 31:10

(8) Pray with her and pray for her. Invite her to fellowship with the people you fellowship with. Teach her God’s Word and help her to grow spiritually.

(9) If you plan to take her out, it would be advisable to invite another couple to go with you.

(10) Avoid spending too much time alone with her, especially at your place or at her place.

(11) It’s easy to get lonely as an unmarried person and this can lead one to make a rash decision. It’s easy to come together with a person of the opposite gender. Consider this – Are you two really compatible? Does she expect that when she gets married, her husband will buy her a 12 bedroom house, while you just want to live in a small country house on a farm, serving the LORD in humility and helping others? If you have been called to serve Jesus in full-time ministry, will she be supportive of that?

(12) Consider this – If you had daughters, would you want them to be like her? If you had sons, would you want them to marry a woman like her?

(13) Do you balance each other out? Are your weaknesses her strengths? Are her weaknesses your strengths?

(14) In a gracious way, find out if she seeks the LORD in His Word and prayer communion daily, mornings preferred since that reveals a person’s obedience to truly put Him first (Matthew 6:33).

I just received this email from a blessed brother who is unmarried and seeking a God-fearing wife:

“Had a great first date with Susan and Friday night I am going over to her mom’s house to meet her.  We are all having dinner together.  Susan has a kind and gentle spirit and, during our conversation, she stated something that I have NEVER heard a woman that I have dated say before.  She said that she has learned that there can only be one head in a marriage and that it is the man. I replied that a true leader is a servant leader just like Jesus, and sacrifices everything for the one he loves. That is 1 Corinthians 13 love.  She was also glad to hear that I attend a nondenominational Christian church… Thank you so much for your prayers, brother. I am very excited about our prospects so far! God is good and He answers our prayers, brother.” SM

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Abiding

Jesus Conquered Sin, Satan, and Death by Dying [podcast]


“Forasmuch then as the children are partakers of flesh and blood, he also himself likewise took part of the same; that through death he might destroy him that had the power of death, that is, the devil; 15 And deliver them who through fear of death were all their lifetime subject to bondage.” Hebrews 2:14-15

Through death Jesus conquered sin, death, and Satan and made His people free, washing away their sins in His precious blood and putting His Holy Spirit in them, empowering them to live fruit-filled victorious lives to His eternal glory!

Christ’s resurrection guarantees our resurrection – both now and for eternnity. Those raised up with Christ now are those who are crucified with Him. This is His holy “remnant.” (Isaiah 37:31; Romans 8:11; 1 Corinthians 15, etc.).

Jesus conquered sin and death (separation) by dying on His cross. Because of this, we need never live outside of an abiding relationship with Christ. His grace is sufficient to provide everything He died to purchase for us – and all these blessings are appropriated via our faith, our abiding in Him (John 15; Romans 6:14; 2 Corinthians 12:9-10; Hebrews 4:14-16; 7:24-26, etc.).

In order to be raised up, to walk in His resurrection power and grace, we must first be dead and buried with Christ.

“For he that is dead is freed from sin.” Romans 6:7

***ALL Heaven’s going to break out when this hits you in the heart, when your heart perceives this cross economy divine revelation.

Finishing Strong mean Finishing Crucified and Resurrected

HOW will you finish? It’s really how you finish that matters most! (2 Timothy 4:7-8) Finish strong beloved – lay down your life, death and burial, so that the strength of your life is Christ’s resurrection grace! (See 2 Corinthians 12:9-10) Go down deep.

“And the remnant that is escaped of the house of Judah shall again take root downward, and bear fruit upward:” Isaiah 37:31

Read the verse above again, looking for the death, the burial, and raising up!

The context Isaiah 37:31 concerns Assyria seeking to seize Judah and yet out of that evil attempt to conquer God’s people came a “remnant.” Yet it’s those who submitted to the LORD in death, those who took root downward (death and burial) who were reciprocally raised up out of that snare and destruction. Resurrection grace wins every time, with no exception! The cross is the divine prescription for absolute victory in every situation.

God counteracts death by the promise of resurrection – now and in eternity! (1 Corinthians 15; 2 Corinthians 4:10-12).

“Always bearing about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our body. 11 For we which live are alway delivered unto death for Jesus’ sake, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our mortal flesh. 12 So then death worketh in us, but life in you.” 2 Corinthians 4:10-12

The depth you allow God to bury you determines the height of His resurrection, His raising up in your life! (See 2 Corinthians 4:10-12)

“Bow down thine ear, and hear the words of the wise, and apply thine heart unto my knowledge. 18 For it is a pleasant thing if thou keep them within thee; they shall withal be fitted in thy lips. 19 That thy trust may be in the LORD, I have made known to thee this day, even to thee. 20 Have not I written to thee excellent things in counsels and knowledge, 21 That I might make thee know the certainty of the words of truth; that thou mightest answer the words of truth to them that send unto thee?” Proverbs 22:17-21

“Forasmuch then as Christ hath suffered for us in the flesh, arm yourselves likewise with the same mind: for he that hath suffered in the flesh hath ceased from sin; 2 That he no longer should live the rest of his time in the flesh to the lusts of men, but to the will of God.” 1 Peter 4:1-2 

“And ye know that he was manifested to take away our sins; and in him is no sin. 6 Whosoever abideth in him sinneth not: whosoever sinneth hath not seen him, neither known him.” 1 John 3:5-6

“What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? 20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

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7 Ways to Forgive [podcast]


PRAY

“But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;” Matthew 5:44

LOVE AND DO GOOD TO THE OFFENDER

“Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.” Romans 12:9

REFUSE TO SPEAK EVIL OF THE OFFENDER

“Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not.” Romans 12:14

RELEASE THEM FROM YOUR PUNISHMENT

“Recompense (repay) to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. 18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men. 19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.” Romans 12:17-19

DON’T CELEBRATE THEIR FAILURES

“Rejoice not when thine enemy falleth, and let not thine heart be glad when he stumbleth: 18 Lest the LORD see it, and it displease him, and he turn away his wrath from him.” Proverbs 24:17-18

TREAT THEM THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED

“And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.” Luke 6:31

STOP DWELLING ON THE PAST

“Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old.” Isaiah 43:18

The blessedness of being merciful to others:

“Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy.” Matthew 5:7

The only way to prevent holding a grudge, is to simply forgive them – as God freely forgave you through the infinite price Christ paid for your sins on the cross, of which you don’t deserve (Psalms 103:10).

“Be patient therefore, brethren, unto the coming of the Lord. Behold, the husbandman waiteth for the precious fruit of the earth, and hath long patience for it, until he receive the early and latter rain. 8 Be ye also patient; stablish your hearts: for the coming of the Lord draweth nigh. 9 Grudge not one against another, brethren, lest ye be condemned: behold, the judge standeth before the door.” James 5:7-9

“And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption. 31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: 32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:30-32

Being kind and forgiving towards others becomes simple as we look in the mirror and declare with Paul the apostle: “For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing.” (Romans 7:18)

“He hath not dealt with us after our sins; nor rewarded us according to our iniquities.” Psalms 103:10

Forgiveness becomes easy when we look in the mirror to see the person (us, me) who needs God’s mercy more than any other person alive on the earth! Memorize Ephesians 4:32 now. KJB

“For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.” James 1:20

“Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; 13 Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. 14 And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness.” Colossians 3:12-14

Forgiveness Quotes

Forgiveness is ultra important to God. If you don’t forgive all others, you are not forgiven of your own sin and are as sure for hell as if you were already there. If you refuse to forgive you damn your own soul, non-negotiably. irrevocably.

“Forgiveness does not mean what happened is okay. It means not letting what happened take any more of your happiness.” Michelle Maros

“There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.” Bryant McGill

“Love is an act of endless forgiveness. Forgiveness is me giving up my right to hurt you for hurting me. Forgiveness is the final act of love.” Reinhold Niebuhr

“Holding a grudge doesn’t make you strong; it makes you bitter. Forgiving doesn’t make you weak; it sets you free.” unknown

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