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Godly Men, Husbands

Men of God are to cherish their wives, to lay down their lives for them as Christ did for the Church (Ephesians 5:25-27). Jesus laid down His life out of His love for us and so should be the case with men, husbands for their beloved wives (John 3:16).

Beginning our day with prayer is an absolutely irreplaceable mainstay in the life of every disciple of Jesus. Show me a man without a private time of seeking God daily, and I will show you a backslidden man, living in sin, one who does not fear the LORD or walk in the Spirit (Romans 8:14; Galatians 5:16).

“Have we not power to lead about a sister, a wife, as well as other apostles, and as the brethren of the Lord, and Cephas?” 1 Corinthians 9:5 

Dear men of God, gentlemen, let us heed the divine wisdom communicated to Lemuel via his mother. Prov 31:3 God disdains weak men, Ahabs. He made you to rule in His wisdom, love, and truth – to protect, cherish, and provide for women and children (Genesis 2:15; Psalms 8:6; Ephesians 5:25-27; Revelation 2:20-24, etc.). Perhaps the prayer of Paul in Ephesians 3:16 is a good place to begin. 

“Give not thy strength (role, position) unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.” Proverbs 31:3

MARRIED MEN PERSPECtIVE: “Knowing that I shall give full account to God for how I loved, led, and cherished the wife He gave me, I must examine my own heart.”

As a man who is a child of God, I must ask myself if I am prepared to lead one of the LORD’s precious daughters in marriage. Am I learning to lay down my life now, today – to put Jesus and others first, not myself? (Philippians 2:3-5) Or, am I self-willed, self-absorbed, full of self, and self-serving? If I am not living the crucified life now, how could God possibly see me to be fit to lead one of His beloved daughters? How could He possibly trust me with one of His beloved daughters if I’m not being faithful to serve Him daily – as He plainly prescribed? (Luke 9:23-24) Am I so deceived that I do not think the Almighty sees my rebellion, the sin and darkness of my heart, and my refusal to lay down my life in this world? (Luke 14:33; 17:33)

Jesus told us that serving Him is “daily” or it’s not at all (Luke 9:23-24). You will serve God on HIS terms or not at all.

It’s always a blessing to see couples praying in public. God says men are to lead this (1 Timothy 2:8). Dear brothers in Christ, are we just another self-serving man? A date with a dear Christian lady is the bless-ed opportunity to make a statement for Christ.

Dear unmarried brother in Christ: Are you PRAYING for a godly wife? If so, are you PREPARING for her? Does God find you faithful, a man with a pure heart of integrity before Him?

WHEN looking for a true equally yoke partner for life…. NEVER look for a church-goer but rather someone who has truly repented and the fruit of their life is that they authentically, daily seek the face of the LORD! They are in His Word and have a life of prayer and the cross. Case closed! Drop the counterfeits now!

SO sir, do we need a certain day of the year (valentine’s), just one day, to obey God in loving, cherishing, romancing the lovely wife HE gave us? Jesus gave all to purchase His bride (body of Christ) and He commands men to love their wives 365! (Ephesians 5:25-27)

David is our example of a man who chose to have a heart after God (Acts 13:22). David prayed:

“Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: 24 And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” Psalms 139:23-24

The LORD cannot and will not bless a dirty heart:

“Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God.” Matthew 5:8

Words are cheap. Now it’s time to literally obey.

crucified with Christ

“My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.” 1 John 3:18

Nothing good happens until we trust and obey (Isaiah 1:18-20).

“But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.” James 1:22

Are you choosing to surround yourself with the Word, praise and worship, good preaching of God’s Word? If not, you are not sanctified. Today is your day!

HOW can our heart and mind possibly be pure if we are filling it with filth?

“Now ye are clean through the word which I have spoken unto you.” John 15:3

“Sanctify them through thy truth: thy word is truth.” John 17:17

Am I so blinded by my sin that I do not see that God requires that I live a crucified life?

“I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.” Galatians 2:20

God alone can prepare a man to lead about one of His beloved daughters. And, the LORD will only do so in the lives of men who are truly “crucified with Christ.”

“For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God.” Colossians 3:3

Nothing in the Christian life works without the cross.

Do you truly desire a godly wife? If so, demonstrate your earnestness to the LORD today by getting before Him in holy prayer communion. Begin with repentance, surrendering your life, your whole will, afresh to Him. Confess all sin (Proverbs 28:13). This is where it all begins – coming to the LORD’s cross.

“Sow to yourselves in righteousness, reap in mercy; break up your fallow ground: for it is time to seek the LORD, till he come and rain righteousness upon you.” Hosea 10:12

Ask: Will I be prepared to cherish and love and provide for and take care of the LORD’s bless-ed daughter that He would send me? Do I truly understand that God is holding me personally accountable to die repent for real, lay down my life in this world, deny self, take up the cross and serve HIM and others? (Luke 9:23-24) Either I’m showing myself faithful to God now or I’m not. What’s the honest truth?

“Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. 8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.” Galatians 6:7-8

crucified with ChristJesus taught that as and only if we are faithful in what we already have, will the LORD grant us more (Matthew 25:21,23). God cannot be faked out, deceived. No mere man can fool God. He sees all and rewards accordingly. Are you bless-able in His holy sight?

“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them (your wife) according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7

Think about it: If a dear virtuous woman is to submit to your headship, can she find you trustworthy to truly seek and obey the LORD? Is there a clean heart of integrity in you?

“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.” 1 Corinthians 11:3

Am I a true worshipper of Jesus Christ, seeking His face honestly, daily? Do I cry out for Him to bring brokenness into me? (Psalms 34:18; 51:17; Hosea 12:10; James 4:8-10) Or, am I simple another church member, a counterfeit tare? Do I cry out daily to the LORD to create in me a clean heart, to grant pureness of heart and life? (Psalms 51; 139:23-24; Matthew 5:6, 8. etc.).

crucified with Christ“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.” Ephesians 5:25-27

A wife is God’s opportunity for the man daily to lay down his life and serve. Pour prayerfully over Philippians 2:3-5 each and every morning. The LORD puts that tangible person there with us to daily love, cherish, and serve – just as He came and served us. What a gift, amen?!!!!

One sister in Christ writes:

“True devotion cannot be faked. God alone knows when it’s true devotion, coming from a hot relationship between He and thee. When we become turned off to all other loves, we will look again to our Eternal husband with love and adoration. We will move as HE wills and speak when HE says again and cease from speaking when HE says. God takes no delight in a liar, nor in an independent bride. He wants us by HIS side. He cannot lead a rebellious people. He is a jealous God, and is desirous of His bride. He wants her attentive to HIM in every way. He expects her to realize and honor His authority over her. It’s HIS kingdom, not ours. We do well to ask HIM to silence our tongues until HE bids us speak, and open our ears wide to wait for His becoming calls and instructions. If we fail to ask these things, we will join the millions speaking about things they have no orders to speak and working works God never sent them to.”

Liza Young writes:

“Our growth in grace may change our spouse, or it may not. There are no guarantees in life except GOD – His truth and His love. But with HIS help, we can change. Although all our marriage ills may not be cured GOD’s grace can make us well. Success in marriage is not finding the right or perfect person but becoming the right person.”

PRAYER OF A GODLY HUSBAND: Holy Father, I here and now this very instant humble myself before You. Please break me to the core of my being. Shatter all the pride, arrogance, hardness of heart, and unbelief. Please grant repentance to my heart and forgive all my sins here and now through the blood of Jesus Christ. I turn upward to You right this moment in the name of Jesus, asking for Your mercy, and ask You to have Your way in me, in this life You gave. I here and now repent and ask You to cleanse and fill this vessel with Your Holy Ghost. I love You Jesus. I love You my heavenly Father. Please make me one with You and teach my heart to love my wife, Your gift to me in this life, as You loved the church and came and died to purchase Your people with Your very life blood. In the name of Jesus, amen LORD.

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JEZEBEL KNOWS NO BOUNDS: The jezebel, feminist movement attacks men, males who earn more than female as if they did something wrong!!! This is a direct attack on God, men, women, and children – the family unit. This is Satan’s work saints. Jesus told us he’s come “to steal, to kill, and to destroy.” (John 10:10) Be not deceived. God ordained that the man, the husband, the father, earn the money to take care of his WIFE and children (1 Timothy 5:8). Beware and be thankful to the LORD for the godly men, breadwinners who provide for their wives and families.

The LORD created the family and the role of each member. Those who attack the family unit, attack God and are under divine judgment!

“God setteth the solitary in families: he bringeth out those which are bound with chains: but the rebellious dwell in a dry land.” Psalms 68:6

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