Dead Beat Dads and Moms?

— “DEAD BEAT DADS” …. “Dead Beat Moms”? Why has the father been displaced from the family? It’s not due to the so-called findings of an epidemic number of “dead beat dads” but rather due to the enemy of mankind attacking fathers and destroying their relationship with their children. See Malachi 4:6. Why? This happens through deliberate media PROGRAMMING, the courts, and jezebels, etc.. This is Satan’s work. It’s been proven that there’s a small percentage of fathers who opt out of their children’s lives, aren’t supportive, and don’t care. It’s interesting that mothers are in the news daily for starving their children, throwing their newborns in dumpsters to die, molesting and doing many unfit things, and even killing their babies. Yet no one uses the term “dead beat moms.” Why? There’s a diabolical agenda to destroy the relationship between the fathers and their children. Concerning the final days of the earth as we now know it, the Bible warns us: “Woe to the inhabiters of the earth and of the sea! for the devil is come down unto you, having great wrath, because he knoweth that he hath but a short time.”(Revelation 12:12)

Interestingly, another end time prophecy is found in the very last verse of the Old Testament:

“Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the LORD: 6 And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse.” Malachi 4:6

To destroy the relationship between the father and his children is to disconnect that child from the God given source of his identity and to weaken a person, a family, and a nation. This is planned. This is also not a war against flesh and blood but against the LORD’s enemy:

“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” Ephesians 6:12

If you are a woman who has been hurt by a man (or men), take it to the LORD (Matthew 11:28-30; Psalms 147:3). As disciples of Jesus Christ, students of His Word, we must be crucified with Him (Galatians 2:20). If you are a man who has been hurt by a woman (or women), please forgive. This is for your own healing and to maintain your relationship with Christ (Mark 11:25-26). We must not blame the other sex (“Flesh and blood”). It was a matter of the heart, not the sex, that resulted in your wounding. Sin is no respecter of sex (male or female). “ALL have sinned and come short of the glory of God” and that includes men and women (Romans 3:10, 23).

The Facts Overwhelmingly Say Otherwise

As concerning most men, the term “dead beat dads” is unfounded. It is baseless. There are isolated cases of men who don’t care or support just as there are of women.

There are dead beat dads and moms and yet it seems obvious that only the dads get blamed and persecuted due to Satan’s ploy to destroy their image and relationship with their children. In fact, it’s popular and accepted to blame the dad. Jokes, comedians, sitcoms, and media programming regularly degrade the place of the father. It’s an accepted form of male-bashing, hatred, and it’s an attack on the LORD’s creation and purpose. Think about it: Can you name just one TV program depicting an intelligent, wise, caring, supportive dad? Bill Cosby in the 80’s, right? Any since then? Children get their security, their courage, and their identity from their dad and much more. Ultimately, this is an attack on God’s creation and mainly the children. The LORD invested His authority in men in particular to play a major role in their families, the church, and in society. Satan wars against this. It would be wise to cease participating in this attitude and attack.

“Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices.” 2 Corinthians 2:11

Satan gets advantage over us and uses us only when he can keep us “ignorant of his devices” or the way he works/operates or is working.

“Come let us reason together” or be reasonable and objective (Isaiah 1:18). Bad parenting is a state of the heart and not isolated to the father or the mother. It’s utterly unjust to assume a man or a woman is wrong or “dead beat” due to their sex (M or F). A person’s fruit is a matter of their heart, not whether someone is the mother or the father. Be not deceived by the world’s ploys.  Satan is “the god of this (current, temporal, sinful) world.” (2 Corinthians 4:4).

Think about it: This week alone most of us have heard of women killing their own children. Does that make all women “dead beat”? Should they be labeled? Should we begin tossing this derogatory terminology around, affixing it to all or most women? No!

Among other forms/points of attack, many divorced fathers who love their child(ren), have been grossly overcharged in child support – an amount not commensurate with their IRS recorded yearly earnings. The fact that they don’t earn enough money to pay an overcharged amount should not make them considered to be “dead beat.” Jesus says “Blessed are the poor,” not cursed are the poor. Being poor in this fleeting world is not a sin in God’s eyes and should not be punished by the courts. In fact, if the world’s courts were just, they would do a recalculation. Whoever considers such to be a sin casts scorn upon the LORD Jesus who said: “Foxes have holes, and birds of the air have nests; but the Son of man hath not where to lay his head.” (Luke 9:56)

My point is simply that we should not stereotype all men or women. That’s an unwise thing to do.

“More than 90 percent of fathers with joint custody paid the support due, according to a Census Bureau report (Series P-23, No. 173). So deadbeats are in the minority. Also, most so-called deadbeat dads actually are dead broke. Two-thirds of men who fail to make child-support payments earn poverty-level wages, according to the Federal Office of Child Support Enforcement. Most of the others are unemployed.” Dr. Stephen Baskerville, Washington Times Article

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