The crux of the cross .... the cross exes out self ... It separates self so that the Savior can have pre-eminence. Preferring Him – loving Him more than self seems to be the reason God commands us to die to self. Also, agreeing with His assessment that fallen self is depraved and must die. Christ then reigns supreme in our lives! John 3:30; 2 Corinthians 4:10-12.