Is there a matter that is bothering you beloved? If so, 1. make sure true repentance and confession of all sin has been rendered (Hosea 14:1-2; 1 John 1:9), and 2. be sure that God is greater than our hearts and will override all guilt and shame and establish His peace and soundness of heart!!!! (Proverbs 14:30; Hebrews 9:14; 1 John 1:9B), and 3. repent of all unbelief and take God at His Word ..... Do you take God at His Word or will you call Him a liar? Read 1 John 1:9 and grab it - appropriate His forgiveness and the clearing of your conscience personally! Thank the LORD for His mercy and complete forgiveness! IN CHRIST, your past IS passed! Please share! If you are born again, any sin you've sincerely confessed to the LORD, asking Him to forgive you, is gone - "as far as the east is from the west." (Psalms 103:10-12) ACCORDING to Philippians 3:13-14, now is your time to declare that all your past is gone (good and bad) and that you are "pressing toward the mark for the high calling of God in Christ Jesus." (Philippians 3:13-14) WE ARE all guilty of wrong doing, sin. When the supposed victim of wrong doing chooses to forgive the offending party as we are all commanded to do, that is victory and obedience to the LORD. If we don't forgive, we will not be forgiven ourselves and will die with all our sins against us and go to eternal damnation, period (Matthew 18:21-35). Showing mercy is a reflection of our own personal reception of the mercy of God through Christ for our own evil doings, which are many (James 2:13; Ephesians 4:32; Matthew 5:7, etc.). "For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: 15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses." (Matthew 6:14-15) ... When we read Matthew 18:1-17 we see that Jesus assumes that if a brother transgresses against another saint, his state is in jeopardy - this points to the transgressing parties apostasy and need to repent and be restored. Then we read Jesus' teaching on the necessity of forgiving those who offend in vs 21-35. That does not negate their own need to repent or perish.