Preparing for Marriage
Are you approaching daily life and marriage with a SERVANT’s heart or your own selfish agenda and to get your own “needs” met?
MANY marry or look for a mate based on $. Counterfeits. Only a self-serving person would marry for financial reasons … which means they are serving money/mammon and not Christ (Matthew 6:19-24).
UNMARRIED WISDOM: You know you have a candidate when you meet someone you’re attracted to and the first thing they want to know is if you are genuinely born again! Then they want to know of you are doctrinally sound (King James Bible, non-osas, Spirit-filled, etc.). Bam. That’s the rare pearl of great price you are looking for in a mate among the many who claim to be Christians but are lukewarm counterfeits.
Are you personally denying yourself daily, taking up the cross, and following Jesus?
Repent for real, lay down your life without reserve, and begin today serving Him and others – not yourself! Memorizing Philippians 2:3-5 will change your life. Prayerfully read this vital passage in your Bible study every single morning!
“For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God.” Colossians 3:3
GOT YOUR SEAT BELT ON? IN MARRIAGE, the wife is to be loved, provided for, protected, and to be cherished by the husband, even as Christ loves and does with His church (Ephesians 5:25-30). In a marriage between a man and woman that glorifies God, there must be a foundational biblical revelation of the purpose for which men and women were originally, uniquely created. Satan has come in like a flood upon the minds of so many today to convince them that they need all kinds of material things that God never ordained or said were needs.
Rich Brown writes: “God’s Word, knowing and studying it together, is very important in a marriage relationship. An unmarried man or woman who doesn’t show any interest and willingness to study the Word of God with you is a counterfeit and false convert who depends only on the teaching of men than the Holy Scripture. Such a person wants Jesus but not His Word. There must be an evidence in that godly candidate that shows his/her love for the Scriptures. If not, you are just wasting your time in courting that person. Being beautiful, young and attractive doesn’t qualify a woman as a good and godly helpmeet. Their willingness to study the Word of God with you is a proof that they are a true believer and the willingness must come from their heart not just because you suggested they do so. Their enthusiasm and eagerness in studying and searching the Bible is the manifestation of their love for God and His Holy Word if they really are a true born again Christian. You don’t have to force them because a true convert has a longing to dig into the Holy Scriptures for themselves. If your current date doesn’t have this deep love for God’s Word, they are not God’s will for you. I know it’s hard but your obedience to God must supersede your love for them and anyone else. Find a person that has a deep love for God’s Word. God will be pleased if you do and He will bless you.
In the unchanging divine economy, the most beautiful of all His creation, the woman, is to be the “helpmeet” (companion, helper, help mate to accomplish GOD’s will) of the man (Genesis 2:18). A godly relationship must be founded and grounded on God’s Word – both the man and woman repenting and learning and DOING what God has stated for their respective, unique roles. We must get rid of all we’ve ever learned from the wicked worldly societies we’ve learned from (Romans 12:1-2; Ephesians 4:23-25., etc.). If you are praying for that godly mate and yet are not diligently studying and learning to be a humble, serving-God-and-others disciple of Jesus, God sees it and will not plague someone else’s life by putting you with them. Those who aren’t learning to serve are devils, plain and simple. You are not ready and will not be till you lay down your own life and die. It’s time to take your own sins into account and cease pointing the finger (Job 19:28). You must trash the “What’s in it for me” motto which is for Satan’s children. Die. Now. Lay down your life today. You’ve made religious excuses long enough. You’ve listened to the devil wolves like Osteen who promised you your best days are yet to come and yet you are an apostate counterfeit heading for hell. They refuse to preach repentance, the first word/command of the original Gospel (Matthew 3:2; 4:17; Acts 3:19, etc.). They lied to you and you listened all because you are not yet real with God (John 3:19-21; 2 Timothy 4:2-4). If you don’t truly repent for real and you marry, you will be personally responsible before the LORD for much destruction – as in how you will be the reason for much hurt and sin in that fabricated marriage. If you choose today to truly go before God and repent, you will, without exception, trash what you’ve learned from the world and begin to allow the constitution of your heart and life to be rewritten with God’s Word. There are people all around us who’ve wasted the best years of their lives living with a prideful, self-serving heart – people who’ve prayed for a godly mate while refusing to be godly themselves. They go to church, following wolves, and act like that’s what being a Christian is. Laughable. Delusional. They studied to get a degree to make money and yet don’t diligently study God’s Word daily. Tares. They make money but are miserable and sinfully rotten to the core while claiming to be Christians. They love their darkness rather than the light of Christ’s truth (John 3:19-21). They are so delusional that they wonder why they weren’t married years earlier. God protected someone else (or perhaps others-plural) from them. Time to die (Colossians 3:1). It’s time to repent. Argue if you will or better yet, just lay down your life and leave everyone else alone. It’s YOU He’s calling to come to Him and die. There is no original Gospel without the cross. Yes, it’s true that some will remain unmarried for no fault of their own and yet, as mentioned above, many are unmarried because they have not truly repented and are not being honest with God or themselves. They go from fairy tale to fairy tale convincing themselves that things are going to get better while they refuse to obey God by dying to self (the cross). They continue to get dressed up on Sundays to go see their greedy hireling wolf they call pastor. Show me a man or woman who claims to be serving Christ who isn’t diligently living to serve God and others, and you will have identified a complete and hell bound counterfeit (Matthew 22:37-39). Repent now. Learn how to care for God and others and …..
Rich Brown writes: “The reason why God (through Paul) was so strict in commanding us to not be unequally yoked is that God wants to protect us, His children, from Satan, because family is very important to Him. So many Jezebels have been manifesting nowadays. The Jezebel spirit manifests not only hatred for men of God, but also God and His Word. A woman who lets this spirit in any part of her life gives place to rebelliousness in her character which craves independence and dominance, and a controlling, manipulative spirit which demands men be submissive to her and follow her will and desires. She doesn’t care about what men think or feel. So, if your date is not a truth-seeker and Scripture-lover, run for your life! She has a tendency, or is a candidate for becoming a Jezebel. How can she teach your children about God and the things of God if she doesn’t know the Word of God? Think about that.”
“Amen! The first step to finding a Godly Man or A Woman is by being one with Christ yourself. And marriage isn’t about a beautiful wedding, a fancy homes, nice cars and picket pences…. but marriage is hospital stays, working long hours, fighting through struggles, serving one another, being faithful and staying together through it ALL!” Eliset Igat
“To unmarried men who desire to be married and looking for a potential mate/wife.. A woman who is praying for a godly husband is the best candidate to marry, because she knows the importance of godly relationship, marriage, family, and how to be a godly wife, mother and helpmeet. A man who find her find a treasure and will be greatly blessed.” Rich Brown
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